I love the part that says ‘and if you can’t help them, at
least don’t hurt them’. I believe that one of the greatest ways we can hurt
people is through our words.
‘You are stupid’. ‘Hopeless child’. ‘Coconut head’. ‘I hate
you’. You dey mad’. ‘Why are you smiling like a burnt goat?’. Words, they
really hurt if used inappropriately. Like a tattoo needle; the hurt, the pain, the
‘ugliness’ lingers for a long time.
The bible says ‘death and life are in the power of the
tongue.’ How do you wield that power? Do
you speak life or death? Do you tear down or build up?
Some years back, I
worked with a lady who in my opinion was really kind but sometimes, she takes
things to the extreme, let’s call her Mrs. Z. I was returning from lunch one
day and met one of the drivers of the company where I used to work. I hadn’t
seen him in a long time as he was ill and I stopped to chat with him. Mrs. Z
saw us chatting and walked away. Later in the day, she came to my office and in
her most-sarcastic-tone-ever; she said ‘Young lady, you have class. You shouldn’t
be seen chatting with a driver.’ I don’t know why she said that but I rebuffed
her respectfully, the only way I can. The driver is still my friend and
I chat with him even after I've left. As for Mrs. Z, she was sacked from the
company while I was still there, and I wonder what her ‘class’ level is? :(
Yesterday, I went to a friend’s office just across the
street for lunch. I was at the reception when a lady came into the office
screaming at the office assistant who was cleaning the floor. I sat there
trying to be invisible and scared for the poor guy who looked like he’d been
struck by a rock. The woman went on and on and said something which stuck. She
said, ‘You will never amount to anything, besides go take a bath, you smell
like ‘leaky toilet’. :(
Bricks and stones may break a bone, but words, they kill the
spirit.
Yes, she hurt you; do you have to resort to insults?
Remember, you can’t take it back. It’s been ingrained
already in the mind of the person you are insulting. And they might not forgive you.
It’s your tongue, your words, your decision, your choice. It’s
up to you. But, I wish that, the next time you decide to say something to
someone, you would resolute that you won't hurt their feelings. Give feedbacks
but don’t be judgmental.
When you are angry, don’t let your ‘mouth’ run faster than
your thoughts. Stop the emotional wounds.
Remember, help others and if you can’t, don’t hurt them with
your ‘tongue’, with your words...
How are you doing today?
Thank you so much for reading. Hugs J
No comments:
Post a Comment