DEFINE BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!

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I had the following conversation with an aunt the other day- holding her new born baby girl, I said ‘Aunt, she’s beautiful!’ and she replied, ‘Really? She’s dark. I wish she was fair. Fair babies are more beautiful, like you are.’ I sat there, staring at her, heart-broken for the beautiful baby girl I held in my arms. and I thought to myself, 'This is stupid! How can anyone define beauty based on a skin color. :(

I have a friend who loved this guy so much. He travelled. They were together. After some years, they broke up and while weeping to a colleague of hers, the ‘so-called’ words of comfort from her colleague were- ‘He found someone better, you know, someone more beautiful than you’. And I was like- Uhmm, excuse me, define beauty?

I know this girl who hurts herself, yes, hurts herself, by killing her self esteem. When I say she’s beautiful? She gives me all the reason why she is not....Someone is prettier, someone else dresses better, someone else has some guy. She is not beautiful.

I know this woman at school who was green here, blue there, red up and yellow down...Mismatched skin complexion, all in a bid to be light.

These are some examples of the battle people go through everyday just to be accepted. Just to be seen as beautiful. 

Honestly, what is beautiful- Dark Skinned vs. fair skinned? Tall vs. short? Fat vs. skinny? Longed hair vs. kinky hair? Filter or no filter?

Is your definition of beauty validated by what the TV and magazines and the world thinks? Hey remember, what you see on the media most times,  are 'Filtered' or 'Photoshopped' or 'the-perfect-picture-after-a-million imperfect takes' anyway.

OR

Do you say you are beautiful because you know you are- whether you are short or fat or tall or dark or no hair or long haired or flawed or not flawed?

What VALIDATES you?

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Many times, I hear people throw the word ‘Clean’ around. She’s Clean. He’s Clean. Automatically, she/ he is beautiful. 

Let's say you can't afford the next fashion statement and have to make do with rags- does that mean you are not beautiful? or Let's say, you have all the clothes there is- does that automatically qualify you as beautiful?

Don't get me wrong! It's good to look good- but is that what defines your life-looking good! Is that your definition of beauty?

For me, beauty goes beyond our physical attributes, and is deep rooted in the heart. 

I love how the bible puts it- Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman/man (I might add) without discretion.

Really, what’s the point having all that ‘amazing features’ outwardly and inwardly you are rotten.

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Beauty for me comes from within, cos like all things, one day, the face, and complexion and dresses and all the physical won’t matter, one day, you'll get old and wrinkled and then what?what matter is what’s within and the legacy you leave behind.

I love everyone. I think we are beautiful physically, in every way. I judge/ appreciate people from what they are on inside. That where true beauty lies.

I just listened to Lupita Nyong'o speech at 

the Essence Magazine Black Women In Hollywood award ceremony and I agree with something she said - ‘You can’t eat beauty. It’s something you just have to be. Having compassion for yourself and for others. That's true beauty’....

Developing Godly traits like love, kindness, patience, forgiveness, compassion, humility, confidence...You know, ‘never fading’ traits like that. That’s what sustains you and keep your story going, long after you are gone. That's what beauty is.

Look at yourself in the mirror. Smile at your reflection. You are beautiful. Flaws or no Flaws. Just go on being amazing from the inside.

Honestly, it’s unfair to judge someone based on the physical.... Beauty is so much more than what the eyes behold.

I love this talk by Lizzie Velasquez!

“What you do, the way you think, makes you 

beautiful.”― Scott Westerfeld


Remain Beautiful. Be beautiful. Remember, you are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Hugs :)

THE PARADOX OF OUR AGE

Hello Mes Amis :)

How was your weekend?

I read this piece this morning and was super recharged for the week. It's really beautiful....and thoughtful...

It's called the 'Paradox of our age'. 

Read and enjoy :))

PARADOX OF OUR AGE

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, yet more problems; more medicine, but less wellness. 

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We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. 

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. 

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. 

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; big men and small character; steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce; fancier houses but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete. 

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. 

Remember to say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. 

Remember to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent. 

Remember to say "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. 

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. 

Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. 

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. 

- Doctor Bob Mooreland

Have a great week....

God Bless you :))

Song of the day- Always pray for you by Nosa

Thanks a billion for reading...

PICTURES SPEAKS LOUDER: 3D PAINTINGS...

Hi Dear,
It's one of those interesting days where I just visit random sites and look up interesting stuff...

There's only one word I can use to describe the 3D art exhibition that was held in July 2012 at Hangzhou, China: Amazing...

The video and pictures below will tell you why...

Fun with 3D Art in China

Source: NDTV Youtube channel page

Enjoy the pictures....Source:the Telegraph

It's so real. It's like you are in the painting....Wish they would come to Nigeria. Would be the first person there.

Kudos to the painters...

Big hugs!!!

EVERY WOMAN IS BEAUTIFUL

Hi dear,
How are you doing???
Please read this beautiful words written by my friend Victor.

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Beauty; they say lies in the eyes of its beholder and this is very true.

Some women are beautiful in their eyes, some in smiles, some lips, some nose, some in their faces, some in shape, some in legs, some in heights, and some in their hearts.   

For some others, their beauty lies within(abstract): management abilities, intelligence, wisdom,​ understanding, knowledge and more.

For some, it's in their talents: great speaking ability, good basketballer, fantastic athlete, a gifted musician, an amazing paint artist, a peculiar writer or poet, an outstanding cook and more.

For some, it's in their spiritual walk with God, others it's in their leadership ability, and others are excellent vision builders and supporters. 

Yes, a woman’s beauty CANNOT be measured because it comes from GOD. They are as beautiful as God since they were made in HIS LIKENESS and IMAGE!!!

So, if you are a woman and you are reading this now please know that YOU ARE VERY BEAUTIFUL and you should appreciate yourself and NEVER consider yourself "ugly or unattractive."

For every man reading this, please take some moment to appreciate all the women in your life.

- Victor Blankson

Song of the day: I feel pretty/ unpretty

Have a beautiful day beautiful one!!!

Thanks a million for reading :)...Hugs!!!